Hey guys! I’m Karolina, this is a photo of my partner Gabriel and me. We run the SimplyTogether Blog together.
We actually kicked things off over 10 years ago when we met at a party of a mutual friend and immediately felt a spark.
Afterward, I kept on bumping into him at social events. One thing led to the next and a couple of months later we were officially dating.
Initially, we were absolutely crazy about each other and every moment together felt like magic!
Things with him were extremely special, and I was excited that I had finally found the one...
But unfortunately, our honeymoon phase didn’t last…
Already 6 months into our relationship, the magic took a back seat and we had our first arguments.
From there onwards, things only took a turn for the WORSE.
I fought with him more and more.
Things got so bad that we eventually broke up.
I was absolutely heartbroken.
Luckily, neither of us had the strength to stay apart for very long. So we got back together a month later.
But the vicious cycle of the honeymoon phase vs. heartbreak didn’t end there.
It took me YEARS to finally figure out how to snap out of this hurtful pattern.
And along the way, a lot of damage was done that caused a lot of hurt and broken trust.
I no longer felt our special connection.
I still loved him, but I didn’t feel in love with him anymore.
The excitement faded, spending time together wasn’t what it once was and I began to feel the distance between us...
What’s worse, I could sense Gabriel was increasingly closing down and he stopped making the many efforts he used to.
There were no more surprises or romantic dates.
Gone were the days of exciting weekends spent in the bedroom.
We had finally become a boring couple.
On top of that, we silently and loudly resented each other, most of the time.
But despite all the bad…
There was still light at the end of the tunnel.
We never truly gave up on our love and kept trying to fix things.
Thanks to our combined efforts, we eventually overcame the numbness and disconnection of our relationship and found a way back to each other!
But WHY did our relationship initially fail so badly?!